House For Sale

Dear E,
I am in the process of selling my house and for some reason it is not selling. I have already bought and moved into a new home, so it is important that this house sells asap. What happened in this home: my son recovered from a serious mental problem. I healed a lot of my relationship issues and am now in a wonderful committed relationship. I'm not sure exactly what I want for the Homecomings session . What do you think?

Dear House for Sale,
Take some time to reflect on all that has happened during the years you spent in the house you are selling. It sounds like it provided ground for a lot of healing in the lives of you and your family. Often when moving, people don't take the time to reflect on what has occurred in the home they are leaving. Having closure about this internally is important in moving into the new life in the new house. After reflecting and taking time to drop into the feelings which may arise, why not do a simple honoring and closing ceremony. You might walk through the house with some sage or incense affirming and honoring what you have received. It is important to have at least one person with you as a witness.

Nesting in the Desert
Dear E,
I am living with my fiancé. We both moved out to Albuquerque from New York and are renting a house together in the foothills. He is the type of person who moves to a new place and immediately puts things up on the walls. I usually take more time. The problem is I feel somewhat displaced. I am spending time in a small area I have carved out for myself at the far end of the living room. I am missing my apartment in NYC with all the coziness I had. I love him AND his aesthetic is so different from mine. Help!

Dear Nesting,
Moving in together provides a great opportunity to get closer and deepen into your relationship with your partner. Identify this as a project you want to work on together so that you will both get your needs met in your new home. What you mentioned about moving in styles in often the case. People create comfort for themselves in different ways , as they settle in new spaces. Since you miss you place in NY, take time to write about or draw it and then use that as a template as you create a space in your new home. Discuss this with your partner and see if you want to blend aesthetics . You may find it's better for each of you to have separate places in your home where you fully express yourselves. Also consider buying a piece of art together.